All dogs need to learn how to be at home on their own. Relaxing alone is not generally something that comes naturally to them. Many puppies learn to sleep alone or entertain themselves, but some don’t. And some dogs may later become unable to cope on their own.

Get a vet check

If an adult dog suddenly becomes vocal, destructive or messy while they’re home alone, take them to the vet for a full health check. Pain or discomfort could explain the change in behaviour, and a vet can rule out any medical causes.

Why do dogs get distressed home alone?

There are a few reasons why a dog might struggle if you go out without them. They may enjoy your adventures so much they can’t believe you’ve gone without them! They may be getting bored or just taking the opportunity to have a great time ripping stuff up or making a mess!

Other dogs feel scared or anxious while they’re alone and start to panic. These dogs can be a bit more of a challenge.

What you can try

The first thing to think about is whether you’re meeting all your dog’s needs. Are they getting enough of the right kind of exercise? Are they having regular opportunities to use their brain? Do they have toys and appropriate things to chew? (Have a look at our tips on putting together a ‘home alone box’ here.) For the bored and fear-of-missing-out dogs, this may curb the unwanted behaviour.

For the dogs who panic, getting them used to being home alone can take a bit longer. You may need support from your vet and a behaviour professional. Particularly if you have a dog who follows you around the house or gets distressed if you nip out briefly.

Helping a dog who panics

While you’re helping your anxious dog adjust to being home alone, don't leave them for longer than they can cope. You may need support from family and friends or even a dog sitter. Every time you leave your dog long enough for them to get distressed, it will set your training back. There’s also no way to know how long this training will take.

The best way to do it is with a programme of gradual de-sensitisation. The first step is to get your dog used to your going-out routine.

Many dogs get distressed as their owners get ready to leave because they know they’ll be left alone. So go through the going-out routine without actually going out. You’ll likely need to repeat it many times, until it becomes meaningless to your dog.

Then, step-by-step, let the dog get used to you walking towards the door, going through it, closing it behind you and leaving. This all needs to happen gradually – only move on when your dog is comfortable with each step.

It can be useful to film your dog, especially when you start leaving. Watching the footage will tell you how they’re coping. These videos are also useful to share with your behaviourist for progress reports.

The key things to remember

• This problem generally won’t go away on its own.
• It can be difficult to completely fix and it will take time.
• You’re more likely to get results with the support of a professional.

Watch our webinar for more advice or find a qualified behaviourist or trainer at the ABTC's website.